I can't help you with an answer, but I have been wondering the same thing lately. I have realised that one of the reasons why I decided to not adopt a cat (yet) is the fact that Cat the Elder is still alive. He was my first cat, and, even though he now lives with my parents, he's still my kitteh at heart and has been for 18 years. I love him so much, I can't get a new cat, because it wouldn't be fair on him or her. I also fear that I will compare any potential new cat with Cat the Elder, and that they won't be able to measure up (because Cat the Elder is the most awesome kitteh in the world!).
Having said all that, I think that your relationship with Ellie New Cat is still so fresh, and one month is probably not enough to bond properly, especially since you stood at the beginning of the grieving process when you got her. You and Ellie New Cat have only just embarked on a relationship of many years, and there's plenty of time for love to happen, gradually.
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I can't help you with an answer, but I have been wondering the same thing lately. I have realised that one of the reasons why I decided to not adopt a cat (yet) is the fact that Cat the Elder is still alive. He was my first cat, and, even though he now lives with my parents, he's still my kitteh at heart and has been for 18 years. I love him so much, I can't get a new cat, because it wouldn't be fair on him or her. I also fear that I will compare any potential new cat with Cat the Elder, and that they won't be able to measure up (because Cat the Elder is the most awesome kitteh in the world!).
Having said all that, I think that your relationship with Ellie New Cat is still so fresh, and one month is probably not enough to bond properly, especially since you stood at the beginning of the grieving process when you got her. You and Ellie New Cat have only just embarked on a relationship of many years, and there's plenty of time for love to happen, gradually.