Snips and Snails and Puppy Dog Tales

If that's how a *game* has become for you, you seriously need to cut back on some aspect of it. I know it's hard, I know you have obligations. But at no point should FFXI be another job for you. If it is then you've let it go too far and you need to cut back.

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aelice.livejournal.com

I like the empath power guy! He is so cute!

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Beanie's right. You're here to have fun.

If you you're not having fun, do something else. Maybe lighten up on the crafting for a bit. (that said, I can get wool thread pretty easy, with a bit of warning).

Beanie: You're up early.

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loneguardian.livejournal.com

So don't log in for a couple days. o.O And seriously, you don't have to go on crafting binges. You have all your BRD stuff, you have all your DRK stuff... Where's the fire? It's not an emergency to make gil, especially not if it pisses you off so much. Just make a choice to stop, you're being obsessive again. :P The only things on that list that were unavoidable frustrations was the delay in escort and the lousy scroll you got from it. Try not crafting and not digging for a week. I dare you. ;3

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iniadelphinae.livejournal.com

I'm agree with Beanie and Calandra.

The game should be fun. Hanging out with friends and doing stuff together is that, but you're got more scheduled in FFXI than IRL. That's not fun. Give the crafting a break for starters. Time to take a few big steps back and do something else.

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kelen.livejournal.com

I totally agree with everyone else. Why do you think I don't log in most nights, and sometimes not at all? Suffering burn out and trying to get some relief from it. Technically I 'should' be saving for that level 71 sword.. but fuck that. I've ten levels to get, and could buy it right now if I were willing to use the gil I have.. so no fucking way. ;)

No one will get mad at you if you don'g dig, or log in every night to farm and craft. All our AF is done, we've got the things we need.. get some rest!

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Yeah, that'd be a good idea...

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So don't log in for a couple days.

And skip out on what? Static? Escort? Helping people? I don't let people down, not without damned good reason. Getting hit by a truck, eaten by a bear, kidnapped. "Good" reasons like those. Stressed? Not good enough reason.

Try not crafting and not digging for a week. I dare you. ;3

That's what I do on the game. Jokes aside, I'm not a BRD. I hardly even count as a DRK anymore. I craft and I dig. That's what I do.

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First off, every time I get a comment email from you, it freaks me out:

Dave Martin (calandra)

. o O ( Dave? Dave? But that's a guy's name! Cala is a girl! ) Heehee.

Thanks for the advice, I'm going to try to.

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In my icon? Heh! I think he was some Digimon character. That's actually one of my older icons!

Glad you like it!

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Totally agreed. The only question is where.

Luckily AFs are finally all done for our static (I think), so that's one thing off the list. Hopefully once RL job goes back to normal the game won't stress me as much.

I'm so f'ing close to leather 100 (sort of, 98.3), once I got that done that would be a major thing off my back forever. Then I'd just need one more level of gold and ALL crafting leveling would be finished forever.

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And skip out on what? Static? Escort? Helping people? I don't let people down, not without damned good reason. Getting hit by a truck, eaten by a bear, kidnapped. "Good" reasons like those. Stressed? Not good enough reason.

They're your friends, right? Let them know you'd like to take a break and concentrate on crafting or digging if that's what you really want to do in the game. From what I've seen in these comments, it looks like most people will be pretty understanding. "Helping people" needs to include you, too. Sometimes that means helping yourself by not scheduling the fun out of the game doing things for other people.

Stress is a good enough reason if ignoring it drives you completely away from the game, which is where it seems like you're headed. If you really don't want to play FFXI anymore, that's fine. But if you're just burned out and need a break, do that so that you can come back and actually enjoy doing Escort and Eco and your static and helping people.

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We should check with Nil and see if his AF is all done. I suspect he's still missing a key or two? Or maybe he got it done with other people and didn't say anything.

No one will get mad at you if you don'g dig, or log in every night to farm and craft.

No one except me. :P

Thanks though, I'm going to try to find somewhere to cut back. :)

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Exactly. Calandra is female. It happens that Calandra's player is male. (most of the time) I use female pronouns in-game. I've been roleplaying one way or another for enough years (decades? >< ) that it feels odd otherwise.

('dria sometimes plays my character. Less so, now that she has her own little taru mage. ^^ )

I'm a monk, so just going out and killing things is alwasy theraputic for me. Sometimes you'll see me log on and ask: "Anyone need anything pummeled?". No plans, no stress, and I get to help people. I usually end up having a pretty good time.

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Luckily AFs are finally all done for our static (I think), so that's one thing off the list.

That's impressive. I thought that we had all our AF. Then we hit 75 and people started leveling other jobs. I think we've done 7 or 8 sets of AF since then, with several more pending. And if I'm not careful, I'll need two more myself.

What items do you need for those? I can keep an eye out.

If nothing else, I need gil and I'd rather sell wool thread to you than the AH. I'll even give you the LS discount. ^^

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And skip out on what? Static? Escort? Helping people? I don't let people down, not without damned good reason. Getting hit by a truck, eaten by a bear, kidnapped. "Good" reasons like those. Stressed? Not good enough reason.

To be blunt, yes.

It's a game. It's a stresfull, insane, agravating, anoying, wonderful, fun game. We like it because it's difficult. If not, we'd be playing WoW. We like it because we like the people. If not, we'd be playing ps2 or reading a book.

I'm not saying let folks down. That's different.

If you've told someone that you'd help them with something, then sure, that's one thing. But you don't have to volunteer to help with every thing that comes up, and if you take it easy for a bit they'll understand.

Running out on your static with out warning isn't good. But this isn't without warning, and it isn't with out reason. If you're not up to playing, then forcing yourself is bad. They'll understand. And if your static doesn't understand, then they have a date with me in Ballista. And I'm bringing Beanie. :->

And being eaten by a bear isn't a good reason. Being eaten by a bear just isn't good anyway you look at it. ^^

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I had a nightmareish night :x Nothing too unusual for me except that I didn't sleep much [shrugs] Tend to spam LJs when I get like that :x

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Thistle ~.~ Remember when you got your Lu's and you drove yourself *nuts* over getting it. And you kept saying stuff like "just 3000 more fish and I'm done forever!" You did get it done in way faster time than most bots manage it, then you didn't use the Lu's cause they changed fishing. Stop. Take a deep breath. Your crafting skill doesn't go down if you don't synth for a night. Relax. You'll get it. It doesn't have to be tomorrow, the next day, or even this month. In short, stop obsessing. The self-impossed stress is throttling your brain. And while I'm all for seeing you throttled, I don't like seeing you this wound up :|

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voidmagus.livejournal.com

Just about gave me a heart attack! My ex married a guy named Dave Martin...30 sec of reading your profile proves: you do not like NASCAR. Thus, you are far cooler than that redneck SOB.

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Listen to Inda, she's a smart Mithra [nods]

Eco will be fine if you take some time off. Everyone needs time to themselves. Lord knows I growl at people sometimes if they're crawling up my back too much and I just need some time to do my own thing. And our shell and our friends really are understanding, Thistle. Take care of yourself, dammit :|

And speaking of bears, I was pawing through my mother's desk and found this. It made me laugh :x

"GONNA BE A BEAR

"In thist life I'm a woman. In my next life, I'd like to come back as a bear. When you're a bear, you get to hibernate. You do nothing but sleep for six months. I could deal with that.

"Before you hibernate, you're supposed to eat yourself stupid. I could deal with that too.

"When you're a girl bear, you birth your children (who are the size of walnuts) while you're sleeping and wake to partially grown, cute, cuddly cubs. I could definitely deal with that.

"If you're a mama bear, everyone knows you mean business. You swat anyone who bothers your cubs. If your cubs get out of line, you swat them too. I could deal with that.

"If you're a bear, your mate EXPECTS you to wake up growling. He EXPECTS that you will have hairy legs and excess body fat.

"Yup, gonna be a bear!"

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I play console rpg's when I wake up and can't get back to sleep.

/comfort

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voidmagus.livejournal.com

Actually...AF isn't done. But if I don't get it, I don't have to store it. Body & Hands are worthless anyway. And there's absolutely NO chance of me going for keys anytime soon. I'm done with those. 1 full (mostly useless) AF is enough to convince me to not get the useless parts of the other...at least until I'm 70ish and looking to upgrade them. Thanks for the thought though!

PS caught heroes last night...decided i need to watch from the beginning...pity the downloaded ep0 is such crap quality.

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