Oh yes, for sure. If the man knew the truth ('the truth' being my version of it, who knows if I'm right), it would be a much less enjoyable experience for him.
In a way it sort of reminds me of Disney. I went to Disney World soon after the Lion King movie came out, and I went to a character dinner. I was SO disappointed, the people were clearly just in a character costume. (Rafiki was made of this grey fur fabric that I had seen in stores before!) I have no idea what I had expected, but if I could have believed they were somehow real, it would have been a 100% better experience. Instead it was empty and emotionless, which I suppose would be the same as one might feel if they didn't think the girl was into them.
(you wrote, years ago, about feeling frustrated by people sitting in their cars, nodding in agreement to conservative talk show hosts. That stuck with me)
It's funny you remember that! I don't. :D My opinion on it has also shifted slightly. I don't think people nodding along are "wrong" so much anymore, just that the ideas are bad and I wish people didn't buy into them.
(you could make the argument it leads to female oppression, but I don't think you believe that)
I know a lot of people believe that, enough people do that I often question my acceptance of people being able to prostitute themselves if they want. But you're right, I don't believe that.
but I don't need to see a prostitute to get that it just plain feels better when you think she's actually into you. And isn't that what the act is all about?
Oh yeah, for sure. And it doesn't hurt anyone. (And it helps the woman, since it would make the guy more likely to come back!) I guess it just feels dishonest to me, but so long as both people involved are okay with that, who am I to say it's wrong/bad/messed up/whatever?
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Date: 2011-02-11 06:01 am (UTC)In a way it sort of reminds me of Disney. I went to Disney World soon after the Lion King movie came out, and I went to a character dinner. I was SO disappointed, the people were clearly just in a character costume. (Rafiki was made of this grey fur fabric that I had seen in stores before!) I have no idea what I had expected, but if I could have believed they were somehow real, it would have been a 100% better experience. Instead it was empty and emotionless, which I suppose would be the same as one might feel if they didn't think the girl was into them.
(you wrote, years ago, about feeling frustrated by people sitting in their cars, nodding in agreement to conservative talk show hosts. That stuck with me)
It's funny you remember that! I don't. :D My opinion on it has also shifted slightly. I don't think people nodding along are "wrong" so much anymore, just that the ideas are bad and I wish people didn't buy into them.
(you could make the argument it leads to female oppression, but I don't think you believe that)
I know a lot of people believe that, enough people do that I often question my acceptance of people being able to prostitute themselves if they want. But you're right, I don't believe that.
but I don't need to see a prostitute to get that it just plain feels better when you think she's actually into you. And isn't that what the act is all about?
Oh yeah, for sure. And it doesn't hurt anyone. (And it helps the woman, since it would make the guy more likely to come back!) I guess it just feels dishonest to me, but so long as both people involved are okay with that, who am I to say it's wrong/bad/messed up/whatever?