Like Yelp for prostitutes
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hamburger posted a link to a site that lets guys leave reviews on female prostitutes. (Do I even need to give a NWS warning on that?) I've been unable to stop reading it. It's so very, very odd. Not sexy by a long shot, pretty much the opposite of sexy. I'm certain there's a heaping helping of dishonesty in the reviews too (otherwise England has nothing but the most beautiful, wonderful, sexy women as prostitutes, most of them not only getting off on what they do, but eager to love each and every one of her customers.)
I have zero issues with prostitution (it's your body, do with it as you will), so that's not why this site strikes me as so odd. I think it's because there's so much of what the site calls "GFE" -- a girlfriend experience. So many of the reviews make it sound like the girl actually likes the guy, wants to kiss him, loves blowing him, and enjoys the sex as much as he does. These guys really seem to believe it. It's the woman's job to make the guy think that (and maybe a few really do like it), but it ... bothers(?) me that the guys fall for it and buy it.
Yeah, yeah, you could say "men are stupid", "men think with their dicks", any of those type things, but this just seems so obvious: The women are doing a job, they're doing it for the money. If they really are ultra hot sexy women, would they love Joe Blow walking in off the street, Joe who sees prostitutes on a regular basis?
Maybe I'm totally wrong. Maybe I'm being too judgmental. This is just so strange. I guess I'm uncomfortable for the men? It's strange that I can't even put my finger on why this bothers me ('bothers' isn't even the right word). It's interesting though, a look at a life I know little about. I wish I could get a 100% honest version of the site.
hamburger posted a link to a site that lets guys leave reviews on female prostitutes. (Do I even need to give a NWS warning on that?) I've been unable to stop reading it. It's so very, very odd. Not sexy by a long shot, pretty much the opposite of sexy. I'm certain there's a heaping helping of dishonesty in the reviews too (otherwise England has nothing but the most beautiful, wonderful, sexy women as prostitutes, most of them not only getting off on what they do, but eager to love each and every one of her customers.)I have zero issues with prostitution (it's your body, do with it as you will), so that's not why this site strikes me as so odd. I think it's because there's so much of what the site calls "GFE" -- a girlfriend experience. So many of the reviews make it sound like the girl actually likes the guy, wants to kiss him, loves blowing him, and enjoys the sex as much as he does. These guys really seem to believe it. It's the woman's job to make the guy think that (and maybe a few really do like it), but it ... bothers(?) me that the guys fall for it and buy it.
Yeah, yeah, you could say "men are stupid", "men think with their dicks", any of those type things, but this just seems so obvious: The women are doing a job, they're doing it for the money. If they really are ultra hot sexy women, would they love Joe Blow walking in off the street, Joe who sees prostitutes on a regular basis?
Maybe I'm totally wrong. Maybe I'm being too judgmental. This is just so strange. I guess I'm uncomfortable for the men? It's strange that I can't even put my finger on why this bothers me ('bothers' isn't even the right word). It's interesting though, a look at a life I know little about. I wish I could get a 100% honest version of the site.
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Date: 2011-02-11 06:01 am (UTC)In a way it sort of reminds me of Disney. I went to Disney World soon after the Lion King movie came out, and I went to a character dinner. I was SO disappointed, the people were clearly just in a character costume. (Rafiki was made of this grey fur fabric that I had seen in stores before!) I have no idea what I had expected, but if I could have believed they were somehow real, it would have been a 100% better experience. Instead it was empty and emotionless, which I suppose would be the same as one might feel if they didn't think the girl was into them.
(you wrote, years ago, about feeling frustrated by people sitting in their cars, nodding in agreement to conservative talk show hosts. That stuck with me)
It's funny you remember that! I don't. :D My opinion on it has also shifted slightly. I don't think people nodding along are "wrong" so much anymore, just that the ideas are bad and I wish people didn't buy into them.
(you could make the argument it leads to female oppression, but I don't think you believe that)
I know a lot of people believe that, enough people do that I often question my acceptance of people being able to prostitute themselves if they want. But you're right, I don't believe that.
but I don't need to see a prostitute to get that it just plain feels better when you think she's actually into you. And isn't that what the act is all about?
Oh yeah, for sure. And it doesn't hurt anyone. (And it helps the woman, since it would make the guy more likely to come back!) I guess it just feels dishonest to me, but so long as both people involved are okay with that, who am I to say it's wrong/bad/messed up/whatever?